Where My Mom Met My Dad (Dickinson, North
that afternoon, I stopped in Dickinson, North Dakota, the largest city in
western North Dakota. Back in the early 1900s, a Normal
School (i.e., teacher's college) was built here and
during World War II, the college was converted into a Naval Officer Training
School, something like in the movie, "An Officer and a
My Dad, who was 19 years old and attending Western
Washington University in Bellingham, Washington in 1943, joined the Navy and was
sent to Dickinson to go to school there and to become a Naval officer.
Dickinson's first Naval Officer candidates, including my Dad, arrived in town by
train on Wednesday, June 30, 1943. Three days later, on Saturday, July 3,
the community was going to hold a dance in honor of the cadets.
Here's a song my
parents probably danced to on their first date. This is Glenn
Miller's In The Mood.
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that same week in 1943, my Mom, who was 18 and who had just graduated from
Bismarck High School, took a bus out to Dickinson to visit a
girlfriend of hers, Evelyn Tobin. Evelyn's mother, as it turned out, was
on the dance committee but was terribly worried that there weren't going to be enough girls at
the dance, since it was the 4th of July weekend and a lot of families were out of town. Mrs. Tobin pleaded with
her daughter and my Mom to go to the dance.
At first, my Mom
refused to go because she didn't like the Navy, thinking that all sailors were
sleazy scalawags. In deference to Mrs. Tobin, though, she finally relented and went to the dance.
enough, a few weeks ago while I was in Bismarck, I read a front-page article in
the Dickinson newspaper dated Saturday, July 3, the day of the dance. According to the article,
"Girls at the dance will not be permitted to tell the cadets their last
names, supply telephone numbers nor make dates. The cadets will not be
allowed to take the girls home after the dance." This was just as my
Mom had told me many years ago.
you probably guessed, my Dad met my Mom that night at the dance. Naval
regulations notwithstanding, my Dad asked if he could walk her home and they
decided to meet outside, across the street, after the dance was over. He walked her
home that night and she asked him if he'd like to go horseback riding the next
day. My Dad, who had never ridden a horse in his life but didn't admit it,
cheerfully said yes. After bouncing up and down in a saddle for six hours
the next day, my Dad hobbled home. My Mom probably wasn't too impressed
with my Dad's equestrian skills, but he must have made a good impression
regardless because a year later
they got married in Florida, where my Dad was training for the Navy Seals.
had spent much of the past four months researching my family history, so I
thought I should see the place where my Mom met my Dad. I told this story to a nice woman at the Chamber of Commerce, but
she said that the Community Building, where the dance had been held, had been torn down the previous year.
She gave me directions to the empty lot where it had once stood, though, so I
drove out to the lot. As I stood there, I tried to imagine what that night
in 1943 must have been like.
I could almost hear the music.
left: Dickinson State University
in Dickinson, North Dakota. During World War II, my Dad, from the
small town of Skykomish, Washington, attended Naval Officer Training School in
this building, May Hall.
few days after arriving in Dickinson in 1943, my Dad went to a dance at the
Community Building. That night at the dance, he met my Mom, who was in Dickinson visiting a
friend. The Community Building was torn down last year and all that's left
is this empty lot. After the dance, my Dad met my Mom across the street, they walked home together... and the rest is history.
Mom and Dad ice-skating near Dickinson in 1943. They got married six
months later, before my Dad was sent to China to fight in World War
II. He still has that Western Washington University sweater.
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